The Power of Softness: Tanya Tehanna and the Lesson I Didn’t Know I Needed

By Ryder Vale | Only Fans Insider Magazine

Since Lila Monroe, our new editorial columnist, joined the Only Fans Insider Magazine team, I’ve found myself… pausing more.

I don’t mean writer’s block. I mean the pause that comes from realizing someone else is doing something differently—and it’s working. Lila’s articles have this softness. This spirit. She tells stories like she’s having tea with the reader. Me? I file drafts like I'm submitting evidence. My reporting has always leaned on structure: who, what, when, why. Get in, get out, be objective. That’s what journalism taught me. That’s what I believed made a writer credible.

But lately, I’ve started questioning if credibility and connection can co-exist. And it’s taken me until now—this article—to say something out loud that I’ve only just admitted to myself: My writing has been masculine. Not in a gendered sense, but in an energy sense. Rigid. Controlled. Strategic. A little armored.

So I sat down with Joseph, our Editor-in-Chief, and told him how I was feeling. I told him Lila’s voice challenged mine. I told him I was afraid that stepping outside the structured tone I’d built my byline on would somehow… un-validate me. And you know what Joseph said?

“Go try stuff. Go find the most authentic you, and be you. I wouldn’t want anything less.”

Simple. Direct. And kind of terrifying.

But here we are.

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Today I want to tell you about someone who genuinely stopped me mid-scroll: Tanya Tehanna—entrepreneur, creator, stylist, storyteller, and as she describes herself, “The Multifaceted Fairy.” I could go the traditional route and tell you her stats (678K followers, 109 posts, vlogs on deck). I could rattle off that she’s the force behind @thefunsizebarber, a fusion of style, energy, and healing that unfolds across platforms. But that wouldn’t do her justice.

Instead, let me tell you why she caught me.

The Moment That Hit

It was a reel. Tanya stepping into a pool—pregnant, poised, and grounded in her skin in a way that felt… reverent. Not posed. Not curated. Reverent. Her hair wet from the summer heat. Her hand gliding along the pool railing. And a softness in her face that felt like an open letter to the world:

“This is me. Unapologetically.”

It wasn’t a thirst trap. It wasn’t a “boss babe” trope. It was a woman, present in her journey, commanding space without needing to raise her voice.

And it struck me—this wasn’t just content. This was living art.

A Fairy With Layers

Tanya Tehanna isn’t easily categorized. Which is exactly what makes her so magnetic.

She’s a creator with vlogs that go beyond beauty—they document becoming. Her energy ranges from maternal to mystical, playful to potent. She’s that rare kind of woman who seems like she could read your birth chart and then give you the best fade you’ve ever had—all while schooling you on manifestation and business strategy.

She doesn’t trade on shock. She trades on soul.

And in a creator economy often obsessed with virality, that makes her revolutionary.

Why This One Mattered to Me

I’ve covered a lot of creators here at OFIM. Wrestlers, racers, Olympians, models. I’ve tracked their careers with admiration and precision. But I haven’t always let you in on why I admire them. Why certain stories stick with me. Why some creators feel like voices in a room, and others feel like anchors in a storm.

Tanya reminded me that our industry—this beautifully chaotic world of OnlyFans creators—isn’t just driven by content. It’s driven by presence. By women who choose to show up as they are. And by the platforms brave enough to let that story breathe.

OnlyFans gives Tanya control over her narrative. But it’s her essence that makes it worth watching. She doesn’t demand attention. She earns connection. And in that way, she’s teaching a generation of viewers and creators alike what real authenticity looks like when you stop performing it and start embodying it.

So What Now?

I’m still figuring out my voice. Still undoing years of “just the facts” thinking. Still practicing how to bring a little more heart into my headlines. But I’m grateful to Tanya for reminding me that softness is not weakness. And reflection is not indulgence.

In a world that often pushes creators to be louder, sexier, sharper—Tanya stands in the stillness and lets people come to her. And they do.

So yeah, maybe this article is less “journalism” and more “journal entry.” But maybe that’s the point.

This is the voice I found today. Thanks for meeting me here.

— Ryder Vale

Staff Writer | Only Fans Insider Magazine

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Follow Tanya Tehanna

Instagram: @tanyateahanna

Website: beacons.ai/thefunsizebarber

Reels: @tanyateahanna

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