Not Just the Birds and Bees: Beducated Steps In Where U.S. Sex Ed Has Failed

By Ryder Vale | Only Fans Insider Magazine

There are moments when you look at the state of the world and realize we’ve failed—not just statistically, but spiritually. One of those moments hit me hard after I read the 2025 SIECUS State Report Cards. More than a quarter of U.S. states got slapped with an “F” in sex education. Not a C. Not a D. An F. As in: complete and total failure.

I couldn’t shake it. I picked up the phone and called Lila Monroe.

“Tell me I’m not the only one who thinks this is a catastrophe,” I asked.

She didn’t even pause. “Ryder,” she said, “it’s not just a failure. It’s a betrayal. And it’s happening generation after generation.”

Lila’s right. It’s not just that the curriculum is bad—it's that for millions of kids and adults alike, there’s no curriculum at all. No structure, no guidance, no safe place to ask even the most basic questions. And while mainstream institutions scramble to appease parental paranoia, a digital platform out of Munich, Germany has quietly stepped up with something bold: real, unapologetic, evidence-based sex education. The kind America desperately needs.

Enter: Beducated.

Founded by Mariah Freya and Phil Steinweber in 2018, Beducated started as the “Netflix of sex education.” But what they’ve built is so much more. With 150+ online courses, thousands of lessons, and a brand-new AI Sex Coach tool, the platform has grown into a powerhouse of shame-free, pleasure-based learning—and now, it’s focusing on the people who can make the most immediate difference: parents.

Their new course, “Sex Ed for Parents,” is tailor-made for adults who didn’t grow up with inclusive or accurate sex ed (aka most of us). It covers everything from consent and anatomy to gender identity and relationships. It helps adults untangle their own misinformation while preparing them to have real, honest conversations with their kids—without shame, without fear.

I asked Lila what that kind of offering meant to her.

“I grew up in the Bible Belt,” she said. “We got abstinence-only education, and even that was full of fear-mongering and misinformation. I didn’t learn what a clitoris was until college. You can’t parent with shame. You can’t love with ignorance. Beducated is giving people tools that most of us never had.”

That word—tools—stuck with me. Because what Beducated isn’t doing is blaming parents or pointing fingers. They’re saying, “Here. Let us help.”

Their AI Sex Coach is private, nonjudgmental, and built to answer even the “embarrassing” questions most of us still carry in adulthood. Whether you’re a single parent navigating puberty talks or a couple looking to reconnect, it’s designed to meet you where you are. With clarity. With kindness. With accuracy.

And let’s be honest—America needs it.

We’re watching STI rates climb. Teen pregnancy is still a public health concern. Consent continues to be misunderstood, often until it’s too late. And LGBTQ+ youth? They’re still being erased in states that refuse to even acknowledge their existence.

Meanwhile, algorithm-fueled porn and TikTok trends have become the de facto educators of a generation. We’re feeding curiosity with chaos.

This is where Beducated becomes not just important—but revolutionary. It’s not just educating people about sex; it’s teaching people how to unlearn the crap they’ve been told for decades. How to reframe relationships, bodies, pleasure, power.

When I asked Lila if she thought people would actually sign up, she didn’t hesitate.

“Ryder, you and I talk to sex workers all day. We know how curious people are. How hungry they are to understand. If Beducated can reach even a fraction of those people before they get lost in shame or misinformation, that’s a revolution.”

And she’s right again.

The truth is, we’ve all been failed. Whether you got the abstinence-only lecture, or the “we don’t talk about that” silence, or the “just Google it” shrug, most of us never had a safe place to learn. Now we do.

The platform might not fix every failing school district, or reverse every regressive policy. But it’s something. It’s a start. And it’s available right now, online, for anyone with the courage to want better.

So maybe it’s time we stop relying on the systems that keep failing us, and start looking at the ones that are ready to meet us where we are—with tools, not shame.

Final Thoughts from Ryder

I didn’t think I’d be this passionate about a digital sex ed platform. But here we are. Maybe it’s because I’ve seen too many headlines that read like horror stories. Maybe it’s because I’m finally old enough to know how much I didn’t know when it mattered. Or maybe it’s just because I believe what Beducated is doing matters.

If you’re a parent, a partner, or a person who just wants to understand your body or your relationships a little better—go check it out. It’s not porn. It’s not propaganda. It’s education.

And right now? That’s pretty damn sexy.

Visit beducated.com to learn more.

— Ryder Vale, Staff Writer | Only Fans Insider Magazine