Lily Jade and the Art of Becoming — The Reality Star Who Walked Onto OnlyFans With No Plan, No Experience, and No Apologies
- Lila Monroe
- 2 days ago
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By Lila Monroe — Only Fans Insider Magazine
If you ever needed proof that transformation rarely looks graceful at the beginning, let me introduce you to Lily Jade — reality TV’s most polarizing “villain,” accidental sex symbol, and the first to admit she walked into OnlyFans with absolutely no idea what she was doing.
Her words, not mine.
There’s a moment in the press release that made me actually laugh out loud in my kitchen — not because it was funny, but because it was so profoundly real:
“Half the time I’m in the middle of a scene and just stop like, ‘Actually, I don’t know what the f** I’m doing.’”
It’s rare to hear a creator say that out loud.
It’s even rarer for them to let the world watch the learning curve unfold, unedited and unmasked.
But that’s Lily Jade — a walking contradiction of confidence and insecurity, bravado and vulnerability, chaos and surprising emotional intelligence.
And somehow, all those contradictions are exactly what make her so compelling.
The Aussie Shore “Villain” Who Refused to Stay in the Role
Australia knows Lily Jade as one thing: the girl everyone loves to hate.
The show painted her as the “slutty troublemaker,” the messy drama-generator, the perfect lightning rod for public judgment.
And society did what it always does to young women who don’t perform femininity the “right” way: It tore her apart.
She was slut-shamed by a nation.
Ridiculed online.
Reduced to a caricature.
But here’s what people forget:
Every “reality TV villain” is a real person before she becomes an edit.
And sometimes the smartest thing she can do with the labels forced on her… is make them profitable.
Lily didn’t crumble under the judgment. She strategized.
OnlyFans wasn’t part of the plan — not at first.
It wasn’t a dream or an aspiration.
It was survival, redemption, reinvention… all rolled into a single impulsive decision:
“I honestly thought it was just a photo thing,” she admits.
You can almost picture her scrolling the creator dashboard thinking:
This? This is what people are freaking out about?
But the platform didn’t just change her income.
It changed her relationship with her own body.
“My First Video Was a Spread Video — And I Was Like, Why Am I Doing This?”
Lily didn’t walk onto OnlyFans confident, polished, or sexually liberated.
She walked in hesitant, awkward, and genuinely terrified.
Her first three months?
Photos only.
No nudity videos.
Just experimentation with angles and lighting and the uncomfortable feeling of being fully responsible for how she looked.
Then came her first real video:
“A spread video. I’d never recorded myself naked before… so I was like, ‘Wait, why am I spreading my buttcheeks on camera? This is so weird.’”
The honesty is startling — and refreshing.
Because here’s the thing that outsiders never understand:
Most creators don’t start empowered. They start curious.
Curious about what they’re capable of.
Curious about what desire looks like through their own lens.
Curious about who they can be outside the identities forced on them by family, TV producers, or the public.
What Lily did next wasn’t accidental — it was the beginning of self-discovery.
“I Was So Vanilla Before OnlyFans”
This quote stuck with me.
Not because it’s surprising, but because it’s familiar.
In the adult creator world, there is an unspoken truth:
A huge percentage of performers didn’t explore sex privately before they explored it publicly.
Shame, lack of education, fear, cultural conditioning — pick your poison.
Lily was no exception.
“I never used toys or even touched myself. I used to think it was awkward — and now I’m like, ‘Okay, I’m bored, I’m gonna use my vibrator.’”
There is something beautifully human about learning pleasure backward — from performance to personal. It’s the reverse of how society claims it “should” happen, but in many ways, it’s more honest. She’s not performing fantasies she mastered in private. She’s discovering in front of an audience. She’s letting people see her trying, stumbling, experimenting, evolving.
Her fans aren’t watching a porn star.
They’re watching a woman becoming sexually literate in real time.
The Awkwardness is the Appeal
Lily admits she forgets to cut early during filming. She leaves in the part where she’s confused. She cringes watching herself back.
And you know what?
That’s exactly why her fans adore her.
There’s an intimacy in imperfection. A sincerity in awkwardness. A tenderness in the unpolished moments that no amount of professional lighting can replicate.
Her fans aren’t paying for perfection.
They’re paying for authenticity. For the feeling that they’re watching a first — not a performance of a performance.
Pushing Boundaries — Gently and For Herself
People assume creators jump straight into explicit content, but Lily didn’t.
“I didn’t do anything super inappropriate until six months in.”
It’s almost the opposite trajectory of porn.
Instead of starting extreme and settling into comfort, she began with baby steps —
spread videos, twerking, talking-to-camera content — and only escalated when she felt both financially and emotionally ready.
Then came custom requests:
A $500 roleplay where she pretends to sleep with the buyer.
Calling him “Daddy.”
Slapping herself on camera.
Begging and thanking.
She had never done any of it before.
But each new request became another notch in her confidence belt.
Lily isn’t spiraling or selling out — she’s... learning herself.
And she’s doing it deliberately.
“People Put Their Clothes On for Work. I Take Mine Off.”
This quote is going straight into my personal archive of Lila Monroe favorites.
It’s funny.
It’s sharp.
And it’s true.
The jump from 9-to-5 to adult creator isn’t just a career shift — it’s an identity shift.
One that carries stigma, liberation, financial transformation, and emotional recalibration.
But Lily sees OnlyFans not as a shortcut, nor as a shameful secret — but as investment, empowerment, and long-term strategy:
“I’m not doing this for nothing… If I’m going to sell my body online, I’m making sure it’s worth it.”
This isn’t a woman spiraling.
This is a woman negotiating her worth.
“What Will You Tell Your Future Kids?”
Lily’s response deserves its own award:
“I didn’t work all this time to put you in a f*ing mansion for you to complain that your mum makes sex tapes.”
It’s brash.
It’s hilarious.
It’s also deeply feminist.
Because what she’s really saying is this:
Children don’t need perfect mothers.
They need honest ones.
And she refuses to build a life she must lie about later.
She’s writing a future where shame is optional.
The Long Game: Yes, She’ll Do Sex Tapes Eventually
People love to assume creators are impulsive, reckless, unaware of consequences. Lily flips that narrative.
She’s thought this through.
Deeply.
She doesn’t dismiss the idea of traditional porn — she just wants to build the right audience first. She’s not rushing. She’s strategizing. She’s planning longevity, not shock.
That’s not naïveté. That’s business acumen.
Lila’s Take: Becoming Yourself Is the Boldest Thing You Can Do
I’ve interviewed dozens of creators — polished ones, chaotic ones, intellectual ones, intuitive ones. But Lily Jade fascinates me in a very particular way:
She is both the protagonist and the plot twist.
She didn’t enter OnlyFans empowered. She became empowered because she entered.
She didn’t join with experience. She gained experience because she joined.
She didn’t walk in knowing who she was. She learned who she was because she walked in.
This isn’t a story about a girl gone wild. It’s a story about a girl finally allowed to be herself.
In a world that tried to shape her into a villain, she decided to become the author.
And maybe that’s why I find myself rooting for her so hard:
Because in Lily’s journey — the awkwardness, the exploration, the defiance, the humor — I see the same truth I’ve seen in hundreds of creators before her:
Empowerment rarely starts with certainty.
It starts with a question:
“What if I tried?”
Lily is trying. Trying, learning, tripping, laughing, evolving. Becoming.
And she’s letting us watch the whole beautiful, messy process.
Written by Lila Monroe
Senior Journalist, Only Fans Insider Magazine. Documenting the raw, the real, and the revolutionary in the creator economy.
About Lily Jade: Lily Jade is the 23-year-old Aussie Shore star everyone loves to hate. Branded the show’s ‘villain’ and slut-shamed by a whole nation, she refused to let the backlash break her. Instead, she’s turned her reality TV scandal into a career - cashing in on OnlyFans and making a name for herself off the very labels intended to tear her down. Lily is returning for the second season of the show which will be airing on Paramount+ September 25.
Instagram: @LilyJaade
